Q: Dear Drake, When I was 22 I had a same-sex relationship that lasted two years. That was 15 years ago, and I have been totally heterosexual since. I made the mistake of revealing this to my current boyfriend, who has begun pressuring me to have a threesome. Drake, I have no interest in doing something like this. How can I make my man understand that a threesome is not at all like having a committed and loving relationship. He thinks it should be easy for me because of my past, but its not. I’m totally in love with my boyfriend, and doing this would cheapen the relationship in my eyes. I have always been a monogamous type of chick, not some get it poppin buss it baby! How should I handle this?
 Twisted in Tarrytown

A: Dear Twisted, Your first mistake was to tell your BF, but that’s another situation. Just tell him scraight, yes scraight-up that you don’t feel comfortable doing that and to please let the issue go. Just because you had that type of relationship does not automatically make for a 2-on-1 situation as most guys think. Hey, if it bothers you that much and he keeps pressuring you then its time to move on and find someone that respects your sexuality (exploration period), and YOU.

Q: Dear Drake, I'm dating a guy that I think could be a “keeper,” but he's begun throttling back on our relationship after 1 year of dating. He’s 24, and I'm 30. We have a great time together, and have had detailed conversations about the future, and even getting married. He’s in the military, and will be leaving for Iraq in Dec. So it doesn't make sense to me that he would start hanging out with the friends in his unit in his spare time instead of spending it with me like he used to. He’s going to be deploying with those same guys so will see them daily while he's gone. Not to sound selfish, but one would think he’d cherish these months with me before he leaves. I'm afraid that if I tell him my concerns he’ll break things off with me before he goes and I don’t want that. Could this be his way of getting me to break it off?
J, in Beltsville

A: Dear J, Your BF’s headed to a very stressful environment, and everyone deals with stress in their own way. I have been deployed b4 so know the stressors. Maybe b4 he goes to Iraq he still wants to have that peace of mind and a sense of freedom. Because believe me, when you get there you have no freedom, even in the bathroom. Someone is around you 24 hours, so maybe he doesn’t want to feel locked down before he goes. On the other hand, maybe he’s pushing you away so you don’t get more caught up in him - especially if he thinks he may get killed. That’s a reality that people don’t want to hear. Just be there for him no matter what he needs or does in these last few days in the states…ya heard

Q: Drake, Should I have a problem with my boyfriend being so close with his ex/baby mama? They have a 10yr old daughter together, and have been broken up 3yrs, this time. They've reconciled twice over the years for the sake of their daughter, who has ADHD. We've been together 6mos, and its been great. She just calls a lot, and he's never bothered by it, no matter what time it is, or what we're doing. They just seem mad cool. Do you think this is odd, or should I be wondering if there's more going on with them. FYI, she's not seeing anyone, and occasionally invites only him to events, even though she knows he's seeing me. It makes me feel “dismissed” like I'm not even a concern for her. Basically, she knows she still has his heart. I've spoken to him about her lack of respect, and he blows it off and tells me I'm too sensitive, and that she's not like that. I hate to say this, but sometimes men are just clueless. Break it down for me Drake...
Sensitive Stacy Colorado Springs, CO

A: Well Stacy, The fist thing you should do is get in touch with your feelings, meaning your gut. If your gut is telling you something isn’t right, then it probably isn’t. If it were truly innocent your man would ensure that you knew this and go out of his way to show it. If not, then I think you know already what it is. Yes, one can be amicable with a BM, but if you have a SIGNIFICANT other, then there is a line...Nameans